Monday, March 26, 2012
Marriage - Two Options
The World's Way - Boy meets girl, develops relationship, love blooms. Boy and girl become Man and Wife and commit to a life of shared experiences. In good times, things are good. In bad times each person struggles to figure out what's wrong and fix it. Normally the problem is associated with the spouse, not the person in question. We tell our spouse how they have let us down and how they can improve and help us to be happier. If we don't occasionally stop and do this, we may spend a lifetime unhappy, frustrated, and disconnected. Communication is key. If things get too terribly bad and our spouse just refuses the correction, then we have every right to bow out.
God's Way - Boy meets girl after several attempts at picking his own love interests but this time asked for God to lead him to the right person. A relationship develops, love blooms. Boy and girl become Man and Wife and commit to a life of shared experiences. God takes them up on the commitment and tests their resolve...actually allowing good times and bad. In good times, things are good. In bad times each person struggles to figure out what's wrong and fix it. Initially the blame game and finger pointing is implemented but eventually the prayerful realization hits them. They are too inwardly focused on their own needs being met and they are not serving their spouse like they should be. Both begin turning the inward focus outward toward one another and both get their needs met. Until the next storm hits.
Which way does your marriage work?
Rachael and I just weathered a storm. Sadly we must admit that we were doing things in a very worldly way for a while there. After hitting our heads against the brick wall several times, realizing that is the path to error and destruction, we've now regained composure and focus. More storms will come. We're not naive to the reality. Hopefully we will be better prepared for the next wave.
I encourage you and yours to do the same!